These psychological tricks won’t work for me
I recently came across this interesting thread on Reddit asking “What is the most effective psychological trick you use?” It has some curious replies which are well summarized by BuzzFeed1 – they were blown away by these. For me though, they just won’t work.
- “To avoid workplace drama and be liked, compliment people behind their back” – Nope, don’t do that. Just never do anything to people behind their backs. A compliment not given to a person’s face is a compliment not given at all.
- “Saying ‘You’re right!’ instead of ‘I know’” – Don’t be afraid to say “I know” when you actually know. Passivity in communication doesn’t have any place at a workplace. Your words don’t make you an asshole.
- “On an airplane, if my seatmate is hogging the armrest or being too chatty, I grab the barf bag.” – Don’t be an asshole to your fellow passengers on an airplane. And let’s stop calling it an airplane – we ain’t saving many characters.
- “Instead of asking, ‘Do you have any questions?’ I ask, ‘What questions do you have?’” – doesn’t freaking matter which order you place those words. People don’t have questions if your presentation doesn’t warranty any. You either killed it or you sucked.
- “Put headphones in and play the music” – that isn’t a psychological trick or tip. Music is life.2
- “When people stop by my desk and refuse to leave me alone, I get up and refill my water bottle while they are talking to me. Instead of walking back to my desk, I walk them to theirs. They instinctively will sit down. Then I just sever the conversation and get back to work.” – bloody just say no. Make your teammates realize to respect others time. Again, passivity doesn’t at the workplace.
- “the best way to get them [kids] to stop [asking why]” – don’t stop kids from asking why. The first thing we humans lose when we grow up is curiosity. Let them benefit out of that while they can. Curiosity makes the kids.
- “When you’re in an argument, find something to agree on, then push your main point.” – take it from me, that only extends the argument.
And boy, the list goes on. I think each person finds their way to live through this world. You won’t need psychological tricks; at different times, you need grit, intent and always a lot of patience.